There comes a point when comparing doesn't do me any good. Instead of getting inspired by what other people have made possible for themselves, I get resentful that I'm not there. Is that an awful thing to confess? Probably. But I can’t be the only one, right?
When I’m getting dangerously close to throwing myself a ginormous pity party and I feel myself spiraling down a path of self-doubt, I remember this mantra:
|Comparison is the thief of joy -Theodore Roosevelt|
As I get to know myself better every year, I’ve learned that the accountability needs to be inspired from within. It’s important to give myself recognition for the mini-goals I achieve. It’s important for me to act in a certain way because I intrinsically feel compelled to do so, not just because someone tells me to do so. When I’m successful on my own terms, it means so much more.The key is not to worry about being successful, but to instead work towards being significant - and the success will naturally follow... -Oprah Winfrey
To anyone else who finds themselves in a similar position, here's what I suggest to avoid getting sucked into the comparison trap:
- Keep your focus on what really matters.
- Acknowledge the things that are going well in your life and always keep those in the forefront of your mind.
- Make small and measurable goals personally suited your situation so you can remain accountable for your actions.
- Remember the mini and major goals you’ve achieved thus far and how great it feels to have accomplished those on your own terms.